Resources & support
The books are written to sit alongside real, professional support, never to replace it. If you're struggling, please reach out. There is no shame in needing help. Here it is, gathered in one place.
If you are in crisis right now, if you are thinking about ending your life, or about hurting yourself or anyone else, please reach out immediately.
You are not a burden. Reaching for help is the most protective thing a parent can do.
If you need help today
Samaritans
Free, 24/7, any reason. Email jo@samaritans.org.
NHS urgent mental health line
Select the mental health option, 24 hours a day.
SHOUT
Free, confidential, 24/7 text support, text SHOUT.
Emergency
If life is at immediate risk, or a child is in immediate danger.
Mental health, general
Rethink Mental Illness ↗
Advice, and help navigating services.
EUPD / Borderline Personality Disorder
Mind, Personality disorders ↗
Clear information on EUPD/BPD and getting help.
Find a DBT / MBT therapist (BABCP / BACP) ↗
Therapies with the strongest evidence for EUPD.
Trauma & abuse survivors (Complex PTSD)
ADHD
ADHD UK ↗
Information, resources, and assessment guidance.
AADD-UK ↗
Support and information for adults with ADHD.
ADHD Foundation ↗
The Neurodiversity Charity.
Parents & families
If you love someone with BPD
Family Connections ↗
A free 12-session DBT-based skills course for people supporting someone with emotional dysregulation. Run in the UK by NHS trusts, usually through their personality disorder or complex needs service. Where it runs you can normally self-refer, and the person you support does not need a formal diagnosis. Search your local mental health trust's name plus “Family Connections”.
Books for families and partners →
Six honest picks, including why the best-known one is the most argued-about.
A carer's assessment ↗
If you support someone's mental health you are a carer, and you can ask your council for an assessment of your own needs. Most partners never ask.
Outside the UK? The International Association for Suicide Prevention lists crisis centres worldwide at iasp.info, and Befrienders Worldwide (befrienders.org) lists international helplines. In the US, call or text 988. Phone numbers change over time, a quick search of an organisation's name will find its current details.